As more and more of my friends get engaged and married and have children or get pets, I find myself wondering how my life may have been different if I didn’t follow the paths I did. There are days when I think it would be the coolest thing in the world to have a mini human. They are few and far between, but they are there. And there are days when I miss my little monster (I use this term affectionately) so damn freaking much that I can’t imagine how anyone could possibly ever want to not experience the joy a puppy could bring. But then I think of how heartbroken I was having to leave him every morning to go to school and work and life.
I am a nomad. I literally just moved less than three months ago and I’m jonesing to go somewhere else. It’s really hard to travel when you’ve got a dog who can’t go with you. Or kids, I’d imagine. But it’s hard to travel with adults too. I started this blog shortly after I got to New Zealand. After spending 6 months on my own in Germany. I’ve posted about the challenges of living in a foreign country, not knowing the language or people and being 6 hours and 5,000 miles off from your people. I stand by those sentiments still. Before I did the study abroad in Italy, I couldn’t even go to a fast food place by myself, even just to pick up food to go let alone live in a different country by myself. I would rather starve than be by myself. Not because I wanted to be around other people, but because I hated appearing lonely in front of other people. I don’t know why that distinction was important, but it was.
Europe made me change that mindset. I wanted to see what was out there. And I didn’t know anyone so I had to go by myself if I wanted to have that adventure. And in traveling solo, I discovered something incredible. I met people I would have never given the time of day to ordinarily. I spent time on the things I thought were fascinating and skipped the boring stuff. To me. That’s the beauty of people, though. We all are enchanted by different things. Finding someone who will like and dislike the exact same things as you is nearly impossible. Sure, there will be some similarities, but we all do appreciate different things. Having that opportunity to experience things at your own pace is something everyone should be afforded. It made me stronger. And more independent.
Traveling alone, however, can also lose some of the magic. It is nice to share certain moments with other people, especially those you love (platonic or otherwise!). I’m planning my next adventure – it shall be epic. There’s driving across the country, and gallivanting through different bodies of water, and cruising to countries I’ve only read about. And I don’t want to go alone. But I do. Because planning this adventure is proving to be more stressful than I anticipated. Mostly because I’ve become so accustomed to doing what I want, when I want, I don’t know how to compromise. Well. I don’t want to. And because visas are involved. And consulates. And no email addresses and I have to call people and speak to them. On the phone: I hate the phone. This is 2016 for goodness sake! I should be able to text someone to get a visa!
But when adventuring with other people, you have to take into consideration their stuff. Well, at least you should. So back to seeing my friends committing to other people and all. I can’t even commit to where to go for dinner! And I wonder. If I never went to Italy, if I never moved to Germany, or studied in New Zealand, or worked for Continental: Where would I be? Would I want to travel? Would I still be with my college boyfriend? Would I have the career path I found myself in? Would I have more education? Maybe I would be living back in New York. Maybe I’d have my dog. Who knows? I think things happen for a reason. What those reasons are? No idea. But we end up where we do to affect someone or something. In my opinion. Good or bad – we have purpose.
It’s crazy how many variables there are out there. But ultimately, mine has been pretty freaking awesome. It’s been a roller coaster, but I’m ready for the next turn.